It wasn't long before we started trying new things either. Normal sex was plenty of fun but I did have a few kinks screaming to be let out. I had more than a few fantasies of being tied down with Ryan free to do whatever he wanted to me. Ryan was quick to indulge and while he wasn't exactly turned on by bondage, he wasn't turned off either and he found it kind of fun to have me tied up naked and helpless. We started experimenting with various sexual games and playful teasing that could be done while I was in this predicament. Edging was the first technique we discovered in our sexual exploration and Ryan did find delight in working me up until I was right on the edge then leaving me teetering with no means for release. He would dangle me on that precipice for a maddening length of time before finally getting me off. We also experimented with spanking which he discovered he had quite a liking for. But one of my most memorable adventures during this exploration was the first time I performed oral sex.
I would first learn that oral sex was a thing and learn what exactly it was thanks to some White House shenanigans during the Clinton years. (I wonder how many of us got our worldly education that way :) ) When I first discovered what it involved I was absolutely repulsed by it. Even thinking about it would gross me out. That opinion hadn't changed much by college. I was learning and discovering new sexual delights but that was one I just had no interest in giving or getting. Ryan however was getting a growing fascination for it. And while he knew I really didn't like it - at least I thought I didn't, he really wanted me to give it a try. And he did manage to finally talk me into it by appealing to my love of trying intense new sexual experiments while tied up. He reasoned that if I could survive our experiments with me having my ass paddled red that this couldn't be that big of a mountain to climb.
First oral must rank up with anyone's best adventures, but tied up as well Bless my balls. And you certainly capture the college class attendance, boredom and distraction and and overactive imagination, waiting for the day to get over until the evening and your partner...
Although this is the first known study to focus on the duality of oral sex for MSM, limitations should be noted. These data, aside from the STI testing outcomes, are self-reported and retrospective, thus subject to recall bias of the clinic patients. A limitation of this secondary analysis of clinic data records was that sex behaviors were not parsed out by insertive versus receptive oral sex behaviors. In addition, it did not allow to differentiate between oral-genital or oral-rectal pathways. Further research should gather more specific behavior patterns to thoroughly examine if specific types of oral sex have different roles in STI transmission. Since STI outcomes were of main interest for the current study, and it has been shown that urine tests may not detect infections,37 men were excluded if they did not have at least one oral or rectal STI test done and this was not established in the clinic until August 2014, which may have introduced a sampling bias. There is a likelihood that men who did not receive either rectal or oral testing had an infection in the site that was not tested, thus emphasizing the importance of comprehensive extragenital testing. Given that we did not have data regarding motivations of engagement/nonengagement of protective oral sex behaviors, interpretation should be taken with caution. It could be that HIV positive people are more likely to do other, nonoral sex behaviors since they are already HIV positive, but it is also likely that HIV positive men engage in protective oral sex behaviors as to not transmit the virus. In addition, the current study was not able to examine other seroadaptive behaviors such as serosorting or seropositioning. These alternative HIV protective behaviors also have risk for transmission of STIs and should be considered in further research. There should be caution in generalizing to the more broad MSM population, as these data were collected in a specific geographic location in the United States. Moreover, like all groups of people, MSM are a heterogeneous group and a one-size-fits-all approach to STI promotion may not be effective. Despite these limitations, the current findings are important to document such that government and community agencies have direction in addressing the increase of bacterial STIs among MSM.
As the risk of transmission through oral sex is estimated to be much lower than for vaginal and anal intercourse in the absence of antiretroviral therapy, it is implausible that the risk of transmission through oral sex is not affected in the same way as other sexual transmission risks when effective treatment suppresses viral load.
Very few cases of transmission through oral sex have been reported amongst gay men despite the continued practice of oral sex (often with ejaculation into the mouth) by large numbers of men over many years.
Brushing the teeth and gums often causes mild abrasions and stimulates bleeding. Safer sex guidelines have sometimes suggested that recent brushing can increase the risk of infection through oral sex.
The risk of HIV transmission through vaginal or anal intercourse is effectively zero if a person with HIV is on treatment and has a fully suppressed viral load. It is logical that if HIV cannot be transmitted through anal or vaginal intercourse when viral load is fully suppressed, the same will apply to oral sex.
Cunnilingus is considered very low risk. The very few case reports of HIV transmission are limited to people performing cunnilingus (rather than receiving it). A systematic review included two studies which included cunnilingus in assessments of the risk per oral sex act. In both cases the estimate was zero - no transmissions were reported (Baggaley).
Many reports of oral transmission are in the form of isolated and anecdotal reports, rather than from observational cohorts (in which people are regularly questioned about their sexual practices and tested for HIV) or other studies with more rigorous follow-up.
Most cohort studies following men who only practiced oral sex, or serodiscordant couples, have tended to show very low levels of risk, in many cases approaching zero. A few studies have given higher estimates which are difficult to reconcile with the others.
Two authoritative reviews of the evidence of the probability of HIV transmission through oral sex both concluded that, given problems with the available data, it would be inappropriate to provide a precise numerical estimate (Baggaley, Patel). The second review did nonetheless suggested that the figure could be somewhere between 0% and 0.04% per act.
If the per-contact risk of oral transmission is 0.04%, HIV might be passed on in one in 2500 acts of oral sex between serodiscordant people. This 0.04% level of risk (one in 2500 exposures) is approximately 20 times lower than the estimated risk for receptive anal sex, but is only half the risk estimated for receptive vaginal sex with a partner during chronic infection (0.08%).
Many of the studies were carried out before antiretroviral treatment after diagnosis became the norm and so are likely to greatly over-estimate the risk of infection. If viral load is fully suppressed, oral transmission cannot take place. If the majority of sexually active people with HIV are on treatment, the per-contact risk is greatly reduced.
Remember: With kissing and make-out sessions, you're both simply playing off each other's movements, directing each other without words. The same is true for oral sex. (One talking exception is when he wants to be dominant -- see number 23.
Oral sex isn't about making him cum. It's not a chore you have to get through in order to get something equally pleasurable after. Many people see oral sex this way -- as a cursory, prescribed action that generates an equal return, usually some kind of penetration. This mentality will make you rush through it to get to the \"main event.\" If that's your outlook (it's perfectly fine to simply not enjoy oral sex), skip it and focus on whatever it is you really want to do.
It's fun to push the limit of how far you can swallow his cock. I think it's really hot to choke on someone's dick -- and he probably will too. But don't push it too much or you might hurt yourself. Deep-throating -- sliding a cock past the larynx into the throat -- should not be seen as the maximum ideal of oral sex or a goal you must move toward. Not everyone can deep-throat, and not everyone should. Tissue trauma can cause problems back there, so don't be too rough.
I generally don't recommend people using any of the oral sex throat sprays, which are essentially chloraseptic spray. Most are filled with some kind of topical anesthetic that numbs the skin at the back of the throat for a few minutes, allowing you to deep-throat.
Earlier age of first sex has potential direct and indirect health effects later in life. Though there are multiple nationwide general population studies on ages of first sex, there is no such nationwide study of first male-male oral or anal sex among men who have sex with men (MSM). This may be important for understanding racial/ethnic disparities in HIV and sexually transmitted infection acquisition among young racial/ethnic minority MSM. Our study examined the birth cohort and racial/ethnic differences in ages of first male-male oral and anal sex using a diverse 2015 U.S. nationwide sample of 10,217 sexually active MSM. The mean age of first male-male oral sex was 18.0 years. Compared with older birth cohorts, those MSM born 1990-2000 were more likely to have younger age of first male-male oral sex. Compared to white MSM, Hispanic MSM and non-Hispanic black MSM were more likely to have younger age of first male-male oral sex with a man. The mean age of first male-male anal sex was 20.3 years. Compared with older birth cohorts, those MSM born 1990-2000 were more likely to have younger age of first male-male anal sex. Compared to white MSM, MSM of all other racial/ethnic groups were more likely to have younger age of first male-male anal sex. These findings emphasize the need for comprehensive and MSM-inclusive sexual health education for young teens and online sexual health resources for young gay, bisexual, queer, and other MSM. 59ce067264